Don’t act your age. That doesn’t mean trying to look 20+ years younger than you really are but maintaining a mental outlook that is youthful will help you to stay enthusiastic, energised and optimistic. All youthful qualities. Resist the temptation to adopt a, been there, done that, got the t-shirt outlook. Even though what goes around comes around, it is always different each time and there is something new to learn and discover.
· You are mix of the people you surround yourself with. Choose to mix with those who are optimistic and spontaneous and avoid grumpy people. You are unlikely to change their outlook and it’s more likely they will bring your energy level down to match their own.
· Always make an effort to look your best. That doesn’t mean spending lots of money on expensive clothes or makeup. Being well-groomed is about taking care of yourself, and the clothes you choose to wear. Splash out on the best hairstylist you can afford and have a style that suits you and is easy to maintain. Hair is often the first thing people notice. A bright lipstick will cheer you up, put a smile on your face, and that in itself is youthful. And walk tall, it can take years off your appearance and make you feel better on the inside too.
· I know, it’s easy to switch on the TV and think what the heck, this is all a load of ………… but watch some of the “now” programmes, even if it’s just in small chunks. There is nothing more ageing than criticising all the latest programmes as rubbish.
· Social media or not. Love it or hate we cannot so easily connect without it. It is likely your adult children’s world, and most definitely your grandkids world. If you want to stay in touch with them, understand them and what they are interested in, you need to speak their language. Kids love to think they can give advice as well as always receiving it. And they are a great place to get advice if you’re not sure how to start.
· Stretch your mind. It has countless benefits. If you join a learning group for instance you will gain new like-minded friends. If you learn a new skill it will stretch you, absorb you and be relaxing as well as stimulating. Read a different genre of books to your normal, step outside that comfort zone and surprise yourself.
· Sleep is restorative and winter is the time to do your own hibernating or at least going to bed an hour earlier than usual. Bed – sex – well yes, enjoying intimacy is great for your physical and emotional wellbeing. And it doesn’t have to be the same sex you might have had in your younger days, nor so frequent. Intimacy is about connecting not necessarily about reaching orgasm.
· You can’t turn back the clock. You don’t have a crystal ball to see the future. The more you live in the present – and practice makes perfect – the happier you will be. Give out what you want to get back in return.
Maggie Eaton www.maggieeaton.co.uk